From the very earliest stage of our life we put into this nonsense game to compete with your peers, your mates even to your siblings also. This competing mindset is pushed into yourself by our schools, college, sometimes parents or workplace. Unhealthy competition makes you get deep down into stress and makes you feel sometimes that you are good for nothing. This whole mantra is wrong and we should rather stick to “compete with yourself” and root for everyone else.
Don’t compete with others compete with yourself.
Your social media sites are just there to make you feel more miserable because people are only posting happy parts of their life on social media. But we actually do forget and start to get into this vicious and regrettable cycle that I am the only one who’s not yet settled and not doing anything full of thrill or making enough money and so on. Well, It’s not your fault.
So try to get out of this unhealthy and unproductive competition and start to compete with yourself only. If you compete with yourself there are numerous benefits and it helps to develop your leadership skills too.
How to compete with yourself.
There are some best way by which you can bring the competent side of yourself to in carve the better version of yourself.
● Set Your Own Standards.
When you aren’t really interested in the outer worldwide competition. So you make your own rules and you are the only one who is obliged by those rules and those rules are set by you, those terms and conditions are particularly made to raise your bar, somehow customized and personalized rules.
● You know better and bitter sides of yourself.
While competing with yourself, you get to know well about your weak areas and the best of you. So you work according to these better and bitter sides. Now you can make your better to the best side and your better side to the okay side.
● There’s no rat race.
Most people are only indulging in the rat race. Means just think once you are in a good competition which gives you inner happiness or it’s just that you are in this race because others are doing it. We often get tempted by just the end result but I think it’s the process which tells you that you are suited or not and if you feel that you are in the wrong array there’s no harm to shift to the other way which is perfect for you mentally and gives you the sense of achievement and true happiness.
● You become your better version.
Here you are the only competitor for yourself because you are going to judge you on the basis of things that you have done in your life. You can improve, and raise your bar high as compared to past you. Like not committing the same mistakes and erratic moves that you have experienced already in your life.
● No mental harm/lowering self esteem.
When you work upon yourself and by the time you gain confidence by practicing it so you don’t have that FOMO not around people and not doing the other stuff which others are doing like same thing. You don’t fear or care what or people are going to talk about you what they perceive of you. Because now you know that you are good enough for that person and you are still on the path to achieving more that you already achieved in the past.
● You Become Aware Of Your Worth.
No matter what you do there will always be that one person who is better than you. And if you have the whole back story of that unhealthy competition that we humans are prone to, it’s just because that people will start valuing you and will be able to know your worth or to show other people that I am better than you. Isn’t it??
But when you start to compete with yourself, you start to value your standards, your values, your inspiration and your way of grinding and your way of success. Now you don’t care and love for the validation that you get from other mouths. But you are happy in yourself only and that’s the only thing that matters when someone is growing and nurturing their career.
End point !
Your worth is immeasurable to the unworthy person that tries to measure it in their own terms. You love it and compete with yourself to the fullest because at the end of the journey you should be proud of yourself that you bring the best version of yourself.
ABOUT AUTHOR
Neha is an aspiring writer and working on her e-book simultaneously she’s completing Bachelor’s of pharmacy and an aspiring Gpat scholar.