The human race is the most social animal on earth, we love companionship. We love to enjoy the company of others because we don’t want to look at ourselves in a state of loneliness. Yes! True, we don’t like our own company and that’s why we always crave other people’s company so that we would be able to avoid our problem of being alone. Fear of being alone and forever is one of the common and dreadful thoughts. If you have ever experienced being in an alone state while facing the extremities of your life, it frightens you most at this time.
The FEAR OF BEING ALONE is called Monophobia. It is one of the most common
phobias which are prevalent among the human race.
In this article, Adoresays will introduce some major reasons and causes why we don’t like being alone and have this fear. But knowing the problem won’t be enough. So, we will dwell on and discuss the impactful ways you can win over this feeling called fear of being alone.
So, let’s get started!
4 Why? What causes fear of being alone?
- LEARN TO LEAVE TOXIC RELATIONSHIP.
We are often entangled in relationships or with people who don’t value us.
They just make you feel inferior, and good for nothing and give a vibe of “ you are nothing in
front of them” or even make fun of you publicly.
LEAVE THEM!
Yes, leave them without any second thought because here you are only getting traumatized and you are making off yourself to the people who really need you, who value you and make you feel that you are equal to them not Inferior. Learn to value your conciseness.
2. ENTERTAINING YOUR PRESENT WITH EXTREME PAST.
Generally, we are so fearful of our past that we keep on thinking about what bad happened to us, and by doing so, we are effortlessly ruining our present plus future.
Looking past is best to take lessons and nothing more than that but we often make these mistakes because of a bad past:-
● Not accepting the people who love you because maybe someone broke your heart whom you trusted deeply.
● Not believing that anything good can happen to you.
● Not so welcoming towards the opportunities and always encircling yourself into irrational fear.
● Making decisions of the present and future just based on past experience which affects your good social life too.
● Ingrained with a negative attitude instead of a cautious attitude but you need to overcome this negative attitude.
3. BEING GUILTY IF YOU CAN’T ACHIEVE.
It’s us, when we feel demotivated or fail so we replan things, make our future goals and aims within a certain period we want to achieve them. But of course, things don’t always work out the way we planned them.
If things don’t happen the way we planned, we lose hope and get into feelings of guilt and sadness. That’s where we get into the feeling and regressive mindset and want someone to hold us but as usual people don’t be available at that time when it’s a low time for you. It’s a universal truth. That relationship only works and blossoms when you are prosperous. And you get into the vicious feeling that there’s no one for you, you are just alone and the biggest fear is what if I don’t get someone, what will happen to me in the near future? Will I be all alone all the time?
4. BEING SUBSTANDARD ABOUT YOURSELF.
We don’t value ourselves. It’s a bitter truth but that’s how it is. You will find rare people who love the way they are, they love their own company, and so on.
You always think bad about yourself. Not even listening to your intuitive voice who sometimes guides you. You are just being MEAN all the time for yourself.
Now think once, if you can’t appreciate yourself how do you expect people to treat you with value…?
8 Ways to overcome “fear of being alone”.
- LOOK AT THE OTHER SIDE.
Something bad happened to you. Okay! Then?
See the positive and the bright side of bad things that happen to you. This will change the whole perspective of your thinking process.
For instance:- your love partner cheated on you. It’s bad and disheartening obviously but now rather than being the gloominess whole time, just once try to see the bright side:-
1. That’s it’s thankful to god that I got to know the reality of this person otherwise, I
would be in the shade the whole time, not knowing about his/her reality.
2. Now I have the opportunity to make myself work on those things that I always
wanted to but due to occupied time, I never gave my attention.
3. Now I can meet up with new people and with experienced lessons about what I
should look for in a partner.
2. DIVE INTO YOUR INNER SELF.
Relax and think once what are your fears? What extreme will happen if you are going to be alone? What are the reasons why you don’t like to spend time with yourself?
Write all these things and ponder consciously over these things. At one time you will be like what? Is this me? Ohh!! This habit I don’t like about myself but don’t run just stay there for a while because that’s requirable to get you out of the fear of being alone.
My meaning is that face off and confront the things that you don’t like. Go into that state, know the complete inner self from where you are running or avoiding after a certain point of time, and you will realize ohh!! That is the whole thing that I am fearful of.
3. EMBRACE SELF LOVE AND SELF-DATE.
Self-love is very important but we don’t pay attention that there are some needs of our body and mind which can only be fulfilled by our attention and self-love. When you love yourself you do value yourself, not entertain any kind of validation that people always wanted to. Because you know how you are and what’s your worth. These techniques of self-love will help you immensely and can be magical for you.
4. DON’T SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN YOU DESERVE.
Often, due to escaping the fear of being alone, we settle for less than we always deserve. We try to give ourselves the kind of satisfaction and sympathy by blaming our fate which is quite unjustified with ourselves. When you get to realize the preciousness of your individuality through the process of self-love, you will never be dispensing your individuality and personality. There will be no confusion in making the choices for the right or wrong people.
5. WORK UPON YOURSELF.
There are always possibilities and scope that you can improve your present self with
hard work and embracing the change of your present time of being alone. Many people don’t get enough time into their busy schedule to improve and work on themselves if you get the time to be alone so respect it by utilizing and channeling your energy into the formative thing.
6. ENJOY YOUR SMALL ACHIEVEMENTS.
When there’s no one for you to cheer for yourself, this is the moment when your loneliness hits you. Right? But to be honest there’s no need for the ritualistic companionship that I crave
because I am so enough to be with myself.
Find small achievements in your daily chores and pat yourself like you completed all your tasks. That’s cheerful. You do exercises regularly. That’s great about yourself because you care for your health.
7. BUILD NEW AND STABILIZING CONNECTIONS.
Connect with new people, and build your socializing skills not just to bring the important ones to your life but build this skill because this skill is quite attractive and impressive, how judiciously you can communicate and imprint your thoughts through your socializing and communication skills. Learning new things is always creative and can avoid your feeling of being alone. Because you know now that you’re alone, time can be quite productive.
8. MINIMIZE YOUR SCREEN TIME.
Comparison hits and then starts the feeling of fear of being alone. Because you are scrolling and very much intuitive about what others are doing, and where they are hanging out. Who they are committed to. What’s their relationship status?
And what your cousins are achieving and hustling but always remember their time and your time is not synchronous so how could you expect your achievements to be aligned with others?
That’s why avoid and minimize your screen time, especially in the morning and night time and even if you use your phone then utilize it with the purpose of fun, freshening up your mood.
Utilize the power of gratitude. How you can express gratitude towards this universe and God? Simple! By just being thankful for whatever you have in your life. Thank you for everything
because of these small things that you have in your life, somewhere someone is praying
for these small things. Be appreciative of everything including nature too.
ADORESAYS VOICE!
Being in the whole process, you are going to gain confidence and you know that confidence gives you grace and the glow where you start to love and embrace yourself the way you are. Keep loving yourself and spreading the love where it's needed the most.
FAQ.
How do you get over the fear of being alone?
By following the instructions of blogs the easiest way to get out of any fear is the power of gratitude and prayers.
Is the fear of being alone common?
Depending on the intensity of fear, if you are highly feared of being alone, consult a doctor
for help.
Fear of being alone after break up?
It’s a temporary one, but you can channel your fear by investing in yourself, improving as a person, and exploring.
Good content
Thank you sachin.