How to fix commitment issues in life, yeah that’s the most dramatic yet important question for us, if we really desire the peace in our mind, heart and soul. I really think commitment issues arise due to the non alignment between these things and in the result of such disharmony we create chaos and you don’t let yourself be conned to a particular decision.

So, in this particular blog adoresays is going to discuss a lot of important things like what is commitment, what are the major reason by which commitment issues really get arise into your life and last but most important part of the topic, how to fix commitment issues in life, it’s the major purpose of us to bring the clarity towards this topic for our readers.

Define commitment?

Commitment is the ultra version of a promise that one makes or assures to the other side that he/she is obliged to give their time and attention in the unfractionated way. You might be committed to your goal, your aim, your love partner, your friend or anyone that you are committed to, commitment is a decision that one owes to take the full responsibility of fulfilling what they have said to themselves or to others.

Commitment issues reasons?

1. Lack of self-esteem towards what you have chosen for yourself.
2. There’s tiredness if you try to be committed.
3. People won’t trust you easily.
4. If you are not committed then, anything in your life becomes difficult to persist.
5. You become less determined towards the choices you make, and sometimes it creates self doubt in your choices and consequently lack of faith.

Some Examples of commitments :

I am committing to myself that I will wake up early.
I promise we’ll be together forever.
I commit to making 300,000 dollars within 3 years.
I commit that I will be learning 3 songs on my guitar till January 2024.
I am committed to myself, I will develop the habit of reading in the morning.

5 Ways to increase commitment.

Why we are Apprehensive of commitment. Why don’t we make such commitments to
ourselves or to the people we love?

● Fix Irresponsible factors.

Think once, if you become a committed person then there is no scope of being irresponsible. If we become committed then there is no room for the irresponsibleness. And as commitment enters, excuses left. Excuses are nothing for you.

Yes! Excuses are the sole reason that we don’t want to make a commitment. If I commit to myself, in the morning at 5 am I will go jogging. Who will pull me back? No one right?? Now, let’s complicate the situation a bit more. If it’s raining in the morning, will you still go for a jog?
If you go. You choose to be the responsible one who knows how to obey your own decision. Then you know very well how you have to manage and deal with your moody excuses and get your body and mind to your work.

But if you don’t go and say to yourself, I will go tomorrow morning because today it’s raining. Then you also know very well that it’s just an excuse that your mind throws to you and you choose to accept it. Because somehow you don’t choose to be the responsible one of your own words. And that’s how the leaders separate themselves from the ordinary brats.

● Face the Confused State of mind.

We Don’t choose to commit if we get tangled into the dilemma of confusion between the two choices. Your way of choice lets you decide your spirit of work towards the commitment.

Stop criticizing and being harsh to others.

Means, how important it is for you. How you see yourself when you fulfil your commitment. What are the outcomes? Your way of commitment only depends how determined you are, towards that sense of satisfaction you get after achievement.

Everyone can get confused sometimes, no issue but don’t let this confusion overpower you and your commitment, once you decide.

● It really takes you.

Yes! It takes you. What does it mean? Let me explain you not briefly but in a more sophisticated and in a simpler way. But for this answer my one question. What do you think? Are commitments enjoyable? Are they tolerating and controllable when you are insane? Are they easy to pursue?

Dear, it’s not. A big No. As all the seasons are not similar and even same is the case with commitments. Sometimes you would love that yes I am committed to myself that I will make 300,000 dollars and going to make myself proud of myself. But sometimes you will be desperately and insanely mad at yourself.

That’s why you committed to yourself because I can’t party and go clubbing like others or craving for a trip with friends and family. It’s just like you can enjoy both the faces of the coin at the same time.

● The Guilt of “IF”.

Continuing the above thing, we want to do all the things at the same time and simultaneously without any waiting and patience. But I think good things require patience.

What if I can’t make it possible? What if I can’t confront myself holistically into this one thing without getting into the trap of results. What if I try and if it doesn’t happen then people will make fun of me? And hundreds of “IF” lists we have. All you have to do is gather your gut and courage to overcome all the “IF AND BUT” and then are good to go with your sole commitment.

● Bring the rationality on to the page.

Sometimes your own commitment makes you a slave to others. Suppose you commit to your partner for not leaving them alone. But what if? Your partner cheated on you. Will you still be with him/her? If yes then you are just harassing yourself in the name of commitment. “Be a committed person of your words, but don’t leave rationality to the next room”.

Adoresays voice!

Make yourself a committing person. How?? Often we commit when we are happy and that’s the time when you dig your own grave with your own words. Don’t ever commit to anyone when you are happy or because they just helped you or you are a new person while forming the relationship, without thinking about the consequences or without even once getting informed to “subjects” PROS AND CONS. So firstly get to know all you need to know but then be armed to the commitment that you have made to yourself.

FAQ.

Commitment issues Quotes.

“Commitments and promises do make sense, if you are with the right person”
“Commitment isn’t force, it comes from within”
“If you are committed, you can’t enjoy both the faces of the coin”
“Commitment brings responsibility, and responsibility owes you trust“
“Commitment is senseless without rationality“

Can commitment issues be resolved?

It can be solved by increasing the awareness and taking charge of your consciousness by elevating it.

Where can commitment issues come from?

When you are frightened of the results, outcomes and the consequences and lack of confidence upon yourself, then you start to face commitment issues.