If we say to someone, we are in love, how do we know that it’s love, how sure you are that it’s the one which is going to be the last forever, how sure you are that it won’t change from your side , how sure you are that it’s selfless love ? Well it’s just that one feeling which only comes for that person , that feeling is so genuine and true that you try to make yourself the better version of yourself so that the other person will be at ease while dealing with you , that other person won’t regret that you’re a bad decision in their life .
Adoresays is also all about to make you feel loved about yourself and to same towards the people you love in your life, so it really becomes important to tell you some important aspects about being in selfless true love. But most importantly if one wants the relationship and their love to be the constant one , among various things it must be the selfless love only and only that selfless love is true love .
Signs of selfless love.
Well it can have different interpretations in different lives, some want physical satisfaction, some want emotional connection and different for different people that’s completely understandable from an individual’s perspective.
- No philosophy of reciprocation.
Every single relationship in this world is the relationship which is reciprocal even if it does include our parents also . At some point of time people do want reciprocation from our side. After all, human tendencies are like this only . So how can we make our love selfless without reciprocation?
Firstly if you do something for someone especially for your love, do it always without any expectations because very profound but the bitter fact is that they don’t tell you to do that special thing for them so, try to make it simple if you are doing something special don’t expect the return, don’t expect them to make you feel the same way by doing the same thing because everybody’s that giving gesture is different . It’s very much different .
2.No comparison.
If you compare your partner with anyone by any chance, it’s an insult to the person’s whole existence in your life. E.g.:- you prepared their favorite dinner for them to make them feel special. And the other person just prepared a normal dinner for you.
Go beyond the perspective, maybe cooking isn’t their thing but they did it just to make you happy . Without comparison and reciprocation it works and that’s called selfless love because here you are seeing your way of things to be happy but seeing the effort of your love that they took for you.
3.No possession and obsession.
Selfless love this one is weird especially for me because I don’t know if you love someone. How can it become so important for you that you put restrictions on them that you don’t talk to this lady/man?
See if you are important to them that person is not going to hurt you or deceive you ever in any way so keep these restrictions aside once and see the change. you let them free and if it’s selfless love from their side too they are going to share their important things with you because they will be sure that here i am not going to be judged by someone because this person belongs to me and she/he lately but obviously understands me.
4. Different priorities but same love.
The equation of priorities are very much different when you are in selfless love because then, you prioritize their priorities up to to the same level of your priorities. You don’t want another person to be the secondary one in your relationship or just a complementary role. Their choices also do matter for you. You don’t put your things or decisions on them. You really respect them and try to make that relationship functional from both sides .Only that love is selfless love.
5. Not conditioned.
What is the meaning of this conditioning ? Does It really matter?
I would say yes it matters a lot. Most often if we get to know that a person loves me so before making it fully recognizable we want them to be in a certain way which is not good.
I mean changing someone and pushing them again and again towards one particular thing is not really good. It makes them feel inferior, and self doubt themselves. E.g.:- suppose if a woman doesn’t like to wear makeup or if a man doesn’t want to be bookish the way you are. It is completely ne to accept the way your love is, after all love is selfless love and true love when you don’t put them under any condition.
Is selfless love healthy?
It may be kind of you that love and health are related, I would say, love and the selfless right love plays a huge and very important part to make your life a blessing.
- Becomes strength.
Weak bonds are the ones which makes you weak , which becomes your weakness but selfless love and true love makes you stronger in every way mentally physically and in every aspect because selfless love is the one which provides you motivation , an inspiration to do good in every way whether it’s your career or else . Selfless love won’t let you distract yourself by your path. “Selfless love doesn’t distract but becomes the strength, helps to grow in every aspect”.
2. Selfless love makes you love yourself too.
You feel more energetic and livable , happy as in the way you feel after a good therapy , yoga classes or energy comes by following your passion. Selfless love comes to make you more compassionate towards the other being. You value the emotions of people. You learn a lot of good values when you are in selfless love because then your “ego” is not coming in between the process of making your mind to be open , benevolent and a more complete person in itself . “
Is selfless love real?
You expect that caring nature from other’s at that point when you don’t do it for yourself
so don’t be the one. Care for yourself becomes so ignorable in this busy and giving world. Get fulfilled in yourself first , so that your demanding and expectation feeling goes away and how does it get away??
very simply doing activities which makes you happy by making time for yourself . It can be anything: yoga , running meditation when your inner wants become satisfied or fulfilled by you only.
You stop expecting and only move forward your hand to give to the other person whether it’s your friendship , your relationship , parenting or any kind of relationship which is important and precious to you. And that is the one of the simple ways to make your love is selfless love without any expectations, conditions, demands.
“You prioritize them but at the same time don’t let yourself drop your worth”. Let us know your way of showing selfless love , be happy and kind to give selfless love where it is needed most.
FAQ.
Selfless love quote.
“Benevolence is the most appropriate act of being selfish“
“True love nurtures your body, mind and soul“
“Selfless love and self love is rare, if you find it, keep it“
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