Emotionally manipulative relationships are the ones where your partner or spouse do take advantage of your emotions and always end up fooling you or not accepting their mistakes by using the emotional behavior to melt you when they are wrong or to prove you wrong. Emotional Manipulation is a big red ag one can find in their partner. Emotionally manipulative partner can totally ruin your mental and emotional health, so it’s better to know first that your partner is emotionally manipulative or not.

Adoresays bringing different aspects of a relationship which might affect or bothers the number of feelings that is meta feelings of a person. One such important topic is an emotionally manipulative partner or part of an emotionally manipulative relationship.

Meaning of emotionally manipulative in a relationship?

Emotional Manipulation is the art of playing with the emotions of the person who is constantly using their loved one to make them do what they want. Yes, it’s an art for them. Because they are just perfect at it. They know how to use it well at a time when nothing works in their favor.

18 signs of Emotionally manipulator in a relationship.

Let’s just know the differing techniques and methods they use in the whole process of manipulation. I would say not just to check your partner but also to have a gaze towards yourself because when you are into that surrounding, you do adopt some habits and you don’t even know that these things are manipulation.

1. Portraying Self Victimization.

If your partner always plays their image as the victim after a fight or while fighting even when it’s their mistake. They will always make you feel guilty after a fight even when you are standing for the right thing.

2. Habit of exaggeration.

If this time it’s your mistake and you are sorry for that thing they will make that single point to extend till the maximum exaggeration. Because this time it’s unfair to them and they can’t handle it when it’s unfair to them.

Example:- suppose your partner once opinionated on your friend and you took it casually. But when you comment or have an opinion about their friend they are reacting like how can you be so mean? Being a girl you aren’t even supporting your same gender. Ohh you all girls or boys are the same etc.

3. Your existence ain’t important.

It’s always about their job, career, their problems and about only their happiness. Your happiness, grief and pain doesn’t even matter to them. For them you are living your life comfortably because you don’t have a complaining attitude and when they find out it’s nothing wrong with you they taunt you often ohh !!! your life is so much easier. This is painful to see the people for whom you care most; they don’t even grasp your inner feeling, not even an inch of it.

4. Physically verbally emotionally torture.

Now recall very carefully that your partner abuses you? Are they abusive towards you when they aren’t in a good mood? Do they slap you often? Do they insult you in front of their friend or in front of your friend? Do they disrespect you socially if you sometimes make a little mistake? Do they use hard or rude language towards your gestures? Do they think it is okay to ignore or disrespect you when things are not working according to their ways or as per their words?

Then, your partner is manipulative because abuse is not only that particular abuse which you or I are aware of. These people again and again do this misbehavior with you and come later to say sorry. And they don’t even mean sorry because they think it’s always okay to say or do anything abusive and then their whole sorry will make it sorted.

5. Their needs matter.

Everyone has their own needs from their relationships. Some people crave for physical satisfaction, some are very much fond of emotional connection & satisfaction.
Example : let’s say you are a person who loves to make phone calls with your partner and their preference is to be on chat. So if you both respect each other’s needs you both will make it happen without even asking. If your partner is manipulative then they will only think and do the things happening by which their satisfaction gets fulfilled. So identify where your partner stands?

6. Their priorities change frequently.

Instance:- If your partner at a moment says that you mean to the whole world for them and on the other front they keep hiding their relationship status from their friends, family or to their people. You will be in a dilemma on what to believe or on what you should not because on one point they make you feel like you are the most important priority to them and next moment treat you as if you are just a stranger to them.

7. Words and actions aren’t aligned.

Have you ever encountered those bluffers who say that you are most important to me but when it’s needed they don’t even respond to your text. Completely they are just playing and being manipulative to you nothing else. Doing every possible thing to prove their point of view to be right.

8. Easy judgements and criticism you face.

Do you need to hide yourself in front of your partner so that they won’t judge you or criticize you? Are you afraid because you don’t know which habit or action of yours will portray you as a bad person in front of them? So they are highly manipulative because you are controlling your actions on the basis of judgements by them.

9. You need to be available always.

It’s a saying if you are too much available for a person they take you for granted but I think the person who is available for you is just because they care and love you. Manipulative partners always use these availability of yours so be careful and available for them who are treating you in the same way.

10. Always unpredictable.

Let me share with you a small story, there was a girl and boy in a relationship. The girl was madly in love with her partner. Few years later she got to know her partner was cheating on her. She broke up with him but the next day that boy texted her .I am sorry but I love you so much. After just a gap of 5 days. The boy again was in a new relationship and constantly messaging her ex to get back to him. In the above scenario the boy was not in rm mind about what to do and constantly hopped from his commitments. So hopping often from your commitments is a sign of an unpredictable person and that the person is not worth your trust.

11. Vague boundaries as per their need.

Manipulators don’t like to establish boundaries because it will harm their motives. They will always speak up about their privacy, time and their space but they will put in the sappy emotion if you are trying to establish it from your side too. Common Phrases but to change scenarios be like :- it’s my phone you should respect my privacy but when it comes to them. They are like there’s no privacy issue. I have the whole bloody right to know about your actions. After all, they are manipulative ones.

12. Often taunt, sarcasm you face.

You just deny their opinions and they can’t digest it. They will often backfire that thing with sarcasm or taunt to remind you that you don’t do it as per their wish.

13. Same Mistake and same excuses.

I firmly believe that if someone is committing the same mistake often and apologizing it’s their way to be the manipulators first and then compensated with some excuses and apology. BEWARE OF MANIPULATORS.

14. Fear of commitments.

In every relationship, a love partner doesn’t fulfill their commitments and promises in life. Simple example :- your partner promises to spend time with you on weekends but then often just withdraws the plan. Manipulative people are very much frightened of commitments and promises because they know they can’t take anything seriously and firmly rely on their statements.

15. Always up for attention.

For them : you should only be understanding. Understanding is the need of any relationship but if it’s from only one side then it’s weird and not normal because manipulative relationships only have one side understanding.

16. Always opportunistic of your weakness.

They always take advantage of your weak points and take out their purpose purposefully if they can. They are opportunist and always in the mode to have the opportunity to manipulate you from their talks, actions and lastly convince you on their side.

17. Will end up making you feel guilty for their wrongs.

No matter what the bloody situation is, you are the only one who is consistently being in the trap and emotion of guilt. You will think, am I really thinking wrong? Is it my fault that I started this conversation? Is my perspective bad?

18. Detach you from your closed ones.

They will always have that constant try to put negative things about your close ones in your mind and same thing they will apply on the other side to make you feel vulnerable and make you realize that they are the sole well wishes of you.