No one likes criticism but I think most of us think it’s okay to be the critic and to criticize others until and unless we don’t go through it and then we realize how wrongful it is to criticize and we need to stop criticizing others. Being critical about things or criticizing someone are two different things, so always try to be in the group where criticism shouldn’t be appreciated by your peers.
In this blog, adoresays going to discuss one of the most important yet underrated topics, that is, how you can stop criticizing and not sound harsh to your people. We really get it by studies, that criticism brings some very negative impact on one’s health and if it’s severe it might start to reflect in the personality one is carrying, they might be more under confident and less likely to socialize with the people.
Why do you need to stop criticizing?
There are multiple reasons that why you should stop criticizing people and look towards everybody with the eyes of positivity.
- Makes you mean.
When you always have a habit of being critical even of small things, people don’t take you seriously, yeah! You lose your respect and it also reflects the eroding mindset, which always keeps searching for things and people to criticize.
It makes your image as a person who has no empathy and compassion for anyone because we are only human beings, we tend to make mistakes and learn from them. If you criticize others, it sets you as a free person who has no work or no aim and you are interested in what is happening in people’s lives.
2. When things seem so personal.
There’s no need for you to always become part of every criticism and become a part of every conversation. When you are so addicted to criticism, you think if you miss this conversation, it may be some sort of important thing you left behind but in actuality, the case is not like this. Go easy with yourself and others too. No one will offend you if you drag away yourself from every small story and its criticism too. Poking isn’t productive ever. if you think like you are doing constructive criticism, no you are not. Because the other person may be more gloomy than before after your harsh words. So be kind and stop complaining and criticizing people.
3. You only know the half story.
Small story:- Richa has put on weight very rapidly in the past months and you and your
classmates boo her & criticize her over her food habits and not doing any kind of exercise. Now, you see you are only able to see what is happening on the front side, Richa can be diagnosed with thyroid or weight increase may be the cause of some stress or depression. There can be several reasons why her weight rapidly increased. So don’t be so in a rush to criticize anyone without knowing the whole story.
4. You can’t be someone’s trust point.
Now, understand this point from someone’s point of view. You constantly criticize others. Your friends and peers know if I share my things with this person, I will be surrounded by a noise of mean criticism behind my back or even at my face. Because they know you as a person can listen but you can not live without giving any opinion. They know it’s in your core nature and you might feel idle if you don’t comment on someone’s life. You can have multiple gossip to talk or to criticize but you will end up being alone where no one trusts you. All you are going to have is hate.
What happens when you stop all criticism?
When you don’t have a problem with anyone, you glow. You glow differently and wherever you go, you light up the entire room with positivity and with your charm. People always have to be in your company and they always want to hang out with you. It’s healthy for your health and the mental health of the other person. You become more progressive in your thinking and constructive in your thinking process. Now your mind doesn’t possess any bias towards anything. You become more acceptable and do not try to fit others into your pre-determined norms and sets.
7 best ways so you can stop criticizing?
There are some best ways by which you can control you criticizing habit by following them, so here’s the list.
● Think Before any criticism.
For instance:- You are at a party and suddenly a girl walks in and you don’t like the way she has been dressed. Is this a valid enough reason that you criticize her?? What gives you authority to criticize her?? So just don’t! Her dress can be bad or not up to the mark but the moment you criticize her it tells of your exaggerating habit of poking or criticizing, which degrades your value in the eyes of others.
● Swap Yourself to their place.
Take the same above example, okay her dress is not good or not liked by you. But you, me or another person do not know the whole story of her, maybe she could have financial challenges, maybe the past week was not free for her to think such things, maybe she is here to mark just the proximity of her.
● Direct talk.
Instead of criticizing someone, the simpler thing is to talk directly to the person and sort out the things. For e.g.:- If you have heard someone complain about your work or any issue to your boss. So instead of criticizing that person, go and have a straight talk and clear things. You know what, it doesn’t create a kind of baggage or any sort of bitterness between you and the other person.
● Merit Yourself first.
Have you ever tried to rate merit or even analyze yourself before criticizing or commenting on any other person? Do it once and you will stop criticizing others and if you criticize you will think 10 times before doing such things.
● Don’t be satirical every time.
Take an example: if someone is fat as compared to you, you and your class sarcastically comment on that person, making her feel bad. Maybe she is fighting thyroid or any kind of obese hormonal problem and you are being satirical which is something nonsense, bullish and inhumane at the same time. So, avoid commenting satirically on person to person.
● Requesting is powerful.
Use your words wisely, when you say things which can bring uneasiness to someone’s face. Instead of doing this, you can request or convey your point of view politely with humility. Politeness is always appreciated, if you don’t like that girl’s dress or anything about someone and you feel an unresisting urge to convey your POV, you can use politeness and your words with wisdom. Otherwise, the most appropriate thing is not to say anything which may hurt anyone or make them uncomfortable about themselves.
ADORESAYS VOICE!
The world is full of voices but what makes you different and adorable is the way you present your point of view. Never afraid of conveying what you feel but let’s just not be in the face of a bad critic but graciously and politely. Remember! The world needs opinion to be a better place but not a bad criticizer. Make constructive criticism which holds a value not a liability in the room.
Summary of the blog.
Blog talks about how we should stop criticizing and how it’s a bad trait for our personality as it makes us mean, people don’t trust you, no need to take things personally and since you only know that half story we are not the right ones to criticize. After this, blogs give you a piece of friendly advice to stop criticizing by certain steps which are adaptable and practical ones like merit yourself first, conveying your words wisely in a representable manner, swapping places, talking directly and not being in the satirical mode as it makes you look cool temporarily but irritates the people by the time.
FAQ.
How to stop criticizing your body?
By being an aware one, that this body is yours, and to change it or embrace it, only get controlled by you and only you. So, if the change is in your control, work to change it and if you can’t change about it, embrace it with pride.
How to stop criticizing everything?
By changing and improving your attitude, if you keep criticizing everything then, the problem is not about everything is not pretty aligning with you but it’s the wrong kind of attitude, you holding which will always fire back you only.
Stop criticizing quotes.
“Instead of being a critic, try to cherish sometimes.
Not everything is against you”“Mental hygiene is important, be aware of not getting polluted in the party of criticism“
“A Critic is the eater.
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You are the served meal“Concentrate on the good thoughts, and let the bad evaporate.
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